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His name is Steve and his wisdom was extraordinary…
It is a childhood memory that will hold strong in my heart and mind for the rest of my life! Here is my story…
It was a bright sunny morning and once a year my sister and I would jump out of bed filled with excitement for our family road trip.
My father packed the car with all of our luggage as my mother prepared all of our favorite snacks. I would grab my Walkman (If you remember what that is I am really impressed! It is a portable cassette player.) and my sister would grab a few books. Before you know it our journey began.
Our commute from Canada to the United States was always entertaining. From great conversations, challenging each other by naming each state, or coming up with funny sentences using each letter from random license plates. That game was hilarious. We used to laugh so hard!
But ultimately from the moment, I woke up and throughout the entire drive, what excited me the most is the anticipation to see Steve again!
I had a special connection with Steve and I couldn’t wait to give him a big hug! During my visits, each morning we would grab a chair and place it right in front of the garage door. We would talk for hours and time would fly by.
Steve was kind, strong-minded, he experienced the unimaginable, and even at an old age, he was full of life.
As a young kid, I couldn’t wait to hear his stories. He treated me like a child of his own and he wanted to teach me as much as he can. He most definitely did!
I was a young child, but I knew I would grow up to be a better person by listening to those that already experienced so much more than I did! Because of my drive to learn and my strong connection with Steve, I am fortunate to have carried his teachings into adulthood.
Hopefully, these lessons can make an impact in your life as well.
Lesson 1 — “Be brave. Even when you are not, pretend to be.”
Steve told me many stories about his dedication and passion to support his family and be the best role model he can be. Stories about challenging experiences in his life, or when he was faced with the war in his early years.
He told me, you are going to experience challenging times in your life and you may feel like you don’t have the strength or energy to handle the situation. You may doubt yourselves, but listen never ever doubt yourself! You are stronger than you think!
When listening to his stories it was clear that Steve was not comfortable with the situations he had to face at first but because of his bravery and strong mindset of knowing his capabilities and believing in himself, Steve became a significant role model for his family and many others!
Believing in himself and stepping forward in a unique situation allowed Steve to help others, learn more, grow, and become a better man.
You will experience many new situations in life, but with each experience take a hold of it with both hands (and both feet if you have to!) and know you will be a better person because you accepted everything that comes with the gift of life. You are allowing life to develop your skills and build you into a stronger and wiser individual.
Lesson 2 — “Take charge of your attitude and don’t let someone else choose it for you.”
Life will get challenging and allowing those challenges to consume you will hold you back from finding a solution. It will also hold you back from living a fulfilled and happy life.
At the same time, if you see someone who is angry, they are stressed, or simply upset never respond to them in the same way. Never let those emotions take over how you feel. Who knows what they are facing. Be mindful of your feelings because it is so easy to let negative energy consume you!
What you do have control of is how you respond to others and the influence you can make. Maybe your energy and the way you choose to feel can help someone else overcome the struggles they are facing!
Lesson 3 — “Make it a habit to do nice things for people. Especially for those who will never find out.”
We are placed on this earth in order to support each other. I know people can be difficult and this may be something you don’t want to hear. It is okay to have alone time, time to think, and time to reflect, but in order to enjoy our lives, all the way to the end it is vital to spend our days loving and helping others.
It is scientifically proven that giving and loving others is the key to happiness!
When we give to others our minds naturally thank us. Our minds will give back to us by providing a boost of positive hormones. Dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin make up the Happiness Trifecta. Any activity that increases the production of these neurochemicals will cause a boost in your mood. It’s really that simple.
At the same time always accept an outstretched hand. Allow others to receive the rewards that come with giving. Accepting a gift or a nice offer from others will make their day as well.
“Remember no one makes it alone! Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.”
I will never forget the beautiful moments I had with Steve. I enjoyed every second and I will live each day remembering him as the wise man he is and living each day through his words of wisdom.